How to Stop Tolerating Other People’s Bad Behavior

Kassandra Vaughn
4 min readApr 5, 2022

There’s a powerful quote that says:

Whatever you are not changing, you are choosing. — Unknown

Especially when it comes to interpersonal relationships, no truer thing has ever been said… and it doesn’t matter how you try to rationalize the ‘bad’ behavior.

You might say to yourself:

“But, they’re family…”

“That’s just how she is…”

“I’m never going to change that person so why bother?”

“I owe them so I have to put up with them.”

“It would be too hard to change things now.”

“I’ve tried to set boundaries and it just doesn’t work.”

I could keep going but you get my drift.

And here’s the problem with all of those sentiments:

You teach people how to treat you.

With every bit of disrespect you allow, with every boundary violation you tolerate, with every manipulation you give in to, you are telling those individuals that they have every right to treat you this way… because you aren’t showing them any differently.

And here’s the truth:



Kassandra Vaughn

* Mindset Coach | Author | Soon-to-be Therapist * On a mission to help women 40 and above rebuild their self-worth & reclaim their power.