How to Hold on to Hope of Pregnancy with Your Own Eggs After 40

I remember the first time I heard the term ‘geriatric pregnancy.’

I was 36 years old, newly pregnant and my RE (Reproductive Endocrinologist) called my pregnancy 2 things: a miracle (after years of secondary infertility) and a geriatric pregnancy.

At 36, I was offended. Currently at 45, the term rings with an even louder feeling of disrespect.

And, as I find myself still navigating the waters of secondary infertility and still trying, at 45, to get pregnant with my own eggs (OE), here’s something I’ve learned over the last 9 years:

There is very little hope in the world for women trying to conceive (TTC) with their own eggs at 40 or above.

And cruel statements are made:

“Just because you still have a period doesn’t mean you have good eggs. Most of your eggs are bad…”

“Your chances of getting pregnant are 1–2%. Your time is up.”

“It’s something you really should’ve done sooner. You’re probably going to have to use DE (Donor Eggs).”

And the level to which all of the above statements are fatally flawed are UNREAL.