How to Get Yourself to Do What Needs to be Done

Procrastination is NOT your friend.

I can’t tell you the number of times people have said to me “I work best under pressure” or “When I finally have to do something, I dive into high gear. Procrastination actually helps me be more productive.”

Not true.

Understanding the neurobiology behind procrastination serves one purpose and one purpose only: to convince you that procrastination is an ancient approach to NOT solving life’s problems.

It didn’t work in cave times and it doesn’t work today.

You might know that you need to better manage your finances, lose some weight, change careers, start a business, end a relationships or write a book. You might have these things on a vision board, a to-do list or in some great day planner that you purchased from the latest self-help guru on your Audible playlist.

You might have your Google calendar blocked off appropriately with a day and time for everything that you ‘say’ is on the top of your priority list.

But then you don’t follow through… and not following through on Monday leads to not following through on Tuesday which leads to not following through for the week, the month and eventually for years.

What’s up with that?

Beyond the fight with your limbic system and prefrontal cortex, there’s another, deeper answer to that question: You don’t think your worthy of the best.

Here’s the thing about procrastination:

We procrastinate as a means of self-sabotage.

Here’s why:

So how do you shift that? How do you shift 1- the commitment to being mediocre and 2- the whole limbic system/prefrontal cortex fight that’s been going on in the human brain for a very long time?

5 things:

1. Pick ONE goal to focus on

2. Get real with your self-sabotage

3. Devote 1 to 4 hours a day of focused time to your goal

4. Work with an accountability partner

5. Use Mel Robbin’s 5 second rule

And let’s get clear on this: life is not about you ‘feeling like’ doing something. It’s about you committing to taking an action and taking the action when you say you will. Whenever you have doubt or fear, count backwards from 5 and, within those 5 seconds, get up and take the action NO MATTER HOW YOU ‘FEEL.’

At the end of the day, your life will be the result of your consistent, daily massive action over a LONG period of time. When I say over a LONG period of time, I’m talking years, not months. To achieve a massive goal (ex: building a business, creating a fantastic relationship, growing a healthy, nurtured family, becoming a lawyer, a doctor or a teacher, changing careers, moving from one part of the country to the other and loving it when you get there), you have to do the work for a long period of time. It’s not a one and done thing.

Give up the notion that there are shortcuts, boot camps or the Cliff Notes version to any major goal in life. There isn’t.

The answer to achieving any major goal in life is the consistent, persistent pursuit of that dream with the kind of heart, mind, and focus that the dream requires. Nothing else will do. Nothing else will get you there.

And, remember, the battle to a dream or goal has nothing to do with anyone else. In life, it is always you against you and while the limbic system has a long history of winning over the prefrontal cortex, keep in mind that you always have a choice… and when you consciously activate the prefrontal cortex on a daily basis, guess which one wins?

That’s right… Your dreams do because you achieve them…


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