Are You Changing Your Life… or Tolerating it?

Kassandra Vaughn
3 min readMar 1, 2024

What version of your life are you currently living? Are you in the ‘Before’, the ‘Messy Middle’, or the ‘After’?

And if you’ve spent years in the ‘Messy Middle’, here’s a more important question:

What’s keeping you in a version of your life that you don’t want to be in?

And we all should ask ourselves the above questions on a weekly basis. It’s so easy to find ourselves living a Groundhog Day for years. It happens unconsciously but the impact of staying there is felt dramatically when way too much time has been spent in a season you could’ve left a long time ago.

And I get it… We’re afraid to ask the question “Am I changing the things I don’t want… or am I tolerating them? Am I actively participating in my own transformation… or am I only talking about it? Am I accepting my life as it is, not because I don’t want a different life but because I’m scared that I don’t have what it takes to create it?”

Those questions are scary… and necessary… and here’s why:

You can’t change any situation you aren’t willing to confront.

So it’s time to confront where you are in your life.

Pull out a journal and…

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Kassandra Vaughn

* Mindset Coach | Author | Soon-to-be Therapist * On a mission to help women 40 and above rebuild their self-worth & reclaim their power.