There’s a popular line of thinking in today’s world that goes something like this:

“You are worthy and deserving of all the best that life has to offer exactly as you are… You’re enough… You don’t have to do more to have more. …

You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do. — Unknown

2021 is the year of courageous self-trust and vigilant accountability.

Why do I say that?

Because we’re not out of the poop show of a pandemic from 2020 and we’re never returning back to what was normal before the poop show… which means… It’s up to us…

You’ve heard the saying “Consistency is king”… and it is.

The precursor to any and all success is the ability to get and stay consistent… and so many people struggle with ‘being consistent.’

Consistency DOES matter. It matters a lot which is why I talk about consistency ALL…THE…TIME… even in…

What does your best life look like?

When you close your eyes, can you see it, feel it, taste it, touch it? Or do you find yourself wondering what even a ‘good’ life looks like?

Here’s the reality: Everything that makes up your ‘best’ life are things that only you…

Low self-worth shows through in everything a person does.

No matter how much you might think you’re hiding it well, your lack of self-worth transmits an energy, a vibe that is felt by every person you come in contact with… and there is no covering it up. Makeup won’t hide it. An expensive suit won’t cover it up. …

How much of your life have you given up to ‘help’ others?

And, when I say ‘help’, I mean the following:

  • Compromising your life, putting yourself last on YOUR priority list, and dropping your biggest life priorities to ‘save’ other people.

How many years have you spent doing the co-dependent, “I’m the rock of my family” human doormat thing?

Because here’s the truth: You’ll NEVER get any of…

What are you forcing in your life?

What are you desperately holding onto?

Is it a person, a job, a home, or a mindset?

In Love It Until It Lets You Go: How to Surrender the People, Places, and Things That are Meant to Leave Your Life, I talk about…

Are you over 40 and afraid to start over?

When I say ‘start over’, I mean any of the following:

  • change careers
  • move across the country
  • go back to school
  • meet your soul mate
  • Get married, get divorced or something in between
  • Have more children
  • End toxic relationships
  • Improve your…

Are you valued?

I don’t know that we ask that question enough so let’s break it down to more specific questions:

  • Do the people in your life value you?
  • Do the relationships that you’ve cultivated reflect a reciprocal connection where you feel valued?
  • Is the work you do in the…

What would it feel like to no longer fight change?

What would it feel like to give up the need to control things that are out of your control, to stop waiting for the other shoe to drop, to relinquish the need for guarantees, to not feel the earth shake…

Kassandra Vaughn

* Author / Teacher / Coach for women in their 30s, 40s and 50s. FREE training on how to stop hustling for your worthiness:

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